Gaining Insight Into Yourself as a Helper

Gain Insight Into Yourself as a Helper

Gain Insight Into Yourself as a Helper

by Chrissy Perry -
Number of replies: 3


1. What were your motives for helping this person?

I enjoy helping others utilizing my skills and experience. It can make a real difference for people and give them the confidence that they have deep inside but until they see themselves (on paper in a resume) in a different way it really makes a difference.

2. Did you benefit from this relationship in any way? How?

Not yet. I received the satisfaction that they were thrilled with the transformation of their resume. I might get the chance to present them to a client in the future or for a job. The reality is if I help someone with a resume for a specific job they have a much higher chance of landing the position which can financially benefit me and them. 

3. What was your role in the helping relationship? In what way do you think you helped this person? Looking back, is there anything that you might have done differently?

I helped them identify how to communicate their skills/experience better. I just documented it for them in a way that employers want to see. I could standardize the process. Have a questionnaire that I have people fill out so there is less time on my hands and they have to do more of the work themselves so it really sinks in for them. 

4. Was there anything that this person did, said, or believed that you did not agree with? How did you react?

No

5. Did you learn anything from this relationship?

Not really.


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Re: Gain Insight Into Yourself as a Helper

by Sophie Switzer -

Hi Chrissy -

I think your response to #2 is very interesting. In my response, I also stated that I didn't directly benefit from the helping relationship in any way but - like you - also noted that there is a bit of emotional fulfillment in helping someone successfully overcome barriers and move on to the next step. It makes me realize that we might associate "benefiting" from a relationship as something negative which is why we maybe don't consider our own satisfaction at doing a good job as a real benefit. 

It makes me realize that just because there's no monetary or transactional benefit to us as the counselor, doesn't mean it's not still a benefit. We're lucky to work in a field that we genuinely enjoy and I don't think the emotional benefits of helping people should be discounted!


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Re: Gain Insight Into Yourself as a Helper

by Chrissy Perry -

Thanks for that feedback Sophie! I agree 100%. As a small business owner in a crazy economy, it is easy to get overwhelmed by the bills that need to be paid - just like our clients that "just need a job".  I need to remember that I am doing this course because I know it is an investment in myself first. The skills I will gain will help others and yes it will give me the confidence to offer this as a paid service to others but it is only a side benefit. 

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Re: Gain Insight Into Yourself as a Helper

by Charise Wilson -

Chrissy, now that you have completed Chapter 1, do you think that helping skills can be incorporated more into what you do? People sometimes are not sure what they want and being able to listen well can help them. You can now transition a resume client into a coaching client because the next step is how they can maximize their time and find a job sooner, those skills can be taught next, especially now that you have gained their trust.