1. What were your motives for helping this person? My motives for helping were to enable the person to connect authentically with others and make meaning of her past so she would feel more relaxed in the world.
2. Did you benefit from this relationship in any way? How? 'm not really sure - it felt a little rewarding when they seemed to do better.
3. What was your role in the helping relationship? In what way do you think you helped this person? Looking back, is there anything that you might have done differently? My role was advisor/therapist. I think I helped them experience a new type of relationship, to experience what it was like not to have to have all the answers, to spend time with someone who wasn't afraid of their emotional reactions. While I did not love the outcome, I do not believe there was anything I should have done differently.
4. Was there anything that this person did, said, or believed that you did not agree with? How did you react? Yes, I was curious about why they believed they could tell what everyone was thinking and how it helped them to pre-read other's motives and intentions. I asked them to tell me more about it.
5. Did you learn anything from this relationship? That I can only help people as far as they can trust me, they have very good reasons for not trusting people, and even if I do everything to demonstrated availability, consistency, warmth, and trustworthiness, sometimes people are not ready or are not a good fit with me.