Gaining Insight Into Yourself as a Helper

Chapter 1: Gaining Insight

Chapter 1: Gaining Insight

by Tisha Grande -
Number of replies: 2

1. What were your motives for helping this person?

During my last job, I was asked to work with our VP of Admissions to create an international recruitment strategy for the upcoming academic year. I had experience in international recruitment and she was fairly new to this realm of higher education. Being new to this position and university, I thought this would be a great way to connect and learn more about the institution I was working for. 

2. Did you benefit from this relationship in any way? How?

By working together on this international recruitment strategy I was able to benefit by meeting various colleagues on campus, learning about my new surroundings and being able to connect with my supervisor, who to this day is a close colleague. 

3. What was your role in the helping relationship? In what way do you think you helped this person? Looking back, is there anything that you might have done differently?

As we built the international recruitment strategy for our university my role was to take my past international recruitment experience and build a model that would benefit the university moving forward. I shared overseas contacts, school information, and data on international student recruitment. Looking back, I would have wanted to visit the campus a bit more while building this plan. I commuted between my state, where the university was located and overseas. I think being more present at the university in those first few months would have helped instead of small visits between trips. 

4. Was there anything that this person did, said, or believed that you did not agree with? How did you react?

I was very lucky to work with a colleague who was patient and understanding. She tried to always see all sides of the situation before making decisions which helped us along the way. 

5. Did you learn anything from this relationship?

During this experience, I learned how to be confident in my own knowledge. In the past, I had always worked with others who had more experience in the international recruitment world, but in this job and in the university,  I was the one who held the most experience in this area of education. I was fortunate in the fact that my colleagues not only trusted me, but allowed me to implement our strategy into our recruitment plans. 


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Re: Chapter 1: Gaining Insight

by Crystal Cory -
Tisha,

This sounds like an amazing experience! I'm glad that you had the team around you to let you be free in building this strategy as I know that isn't always the case. I think from your story I really am reminded about how being grounded and having a complete context is helpful before moving forward. Not sure if you are familiar with Strengths, but I have restorative in my top 5 so I'm really prone to trying to fix problems as quickly as possible. Sometimes that isn't always the best strategy!

Thanks for sharing!

Crystal
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Re: Chapter 1: Gaining Insight

by Paul Cecala -
Tisha,
It sure seems like you were trusted and had quickly been seen as a valued member of the campus team! No small feat in and of itself! I love that you used it as an opportunity to learn more about the school and build relationships with campus leaders.

From a coaching perspective, I think the understanding that you are the expert even when you feel you are not is a true lesson here. It took me a long time (maybe 2+ years to fully internalize that when I was asked to present, it was because I was the SME. Being the SME is not dependent on you feeling you have the knowledge. It is dependent on you simply knowing more than the people you are presenting to.

THanks for sharing,
Paul